THE ARROW OF LOVE. By Tobe Eze

THE ARROW OF LOVE.

(IF YOU MUST LOVE, LOVE WISELY)

It pains most when you see your loved one being taken away from you either by human being or divine being. It is a pain from the heart that affects the body. When you see a person suffering from heart breaking problem caused by taking away of the other lover, you will notice it from the look or the appearance of the person. Love is a two edged sword, when treated well, it does many good but when treated badly, it also does many bad.

The Journey of Love: Before putting yourself into a serious relationship, check where it will be leading you to. Love is not something one should go in and come out anytime one wants, for it may cause many harm if one leaves it at its peak. The journey of love starts gradually and develops a strong bond. At the initial time, one may think that nothing is happening but with time, things will happen. Let us follow the life of these two lovers: It all started in the secondary school, in his last year in the secondary school. A certain girl joined them in their class to write WEAC with them. He was staying in the same line and was the next person to the girl. They started chatting as classmates who were staying together without any intention of having anything to develop between them. Life continued like that till January the last year of their stay there, he packed closer to the school to enable him study for his WEAC. Very fortunate for them, he was living very close to the girl’s house. The girl often goes to his house to study with him. This time around, there were things developing in them but they were pretending that nothing was happening. After sometimes, he opened up to the girl and told her that he loves her. To his greatest surprise, she responded in affirmation. It was on one faithful afternoon when they were alone in one of the rooms in their school hall that they first had their first kiss. On that same day, he told her that, they are not going to marry each other for they are age mates. The two agreed on that but they continued to love each other and cared for each other. Live as normal continued and the affection was growing very strong. When they started their WEAC, the fear of losing each other came upon them.The question now is why the fear, if they will not live forever? Continue Reading.........

The Period of Love: When you see a girl who is in love, you can see it in her smiles and when a boy is in love, you can see it in his eyes. Life during love is the sweetest thing one can get in life. Even when the love has no intention of lasting forever. Every moment, one who is in love will like either to see or hear or think about the one he/she loves. If the person is not present and a picture of the person is present, it will serve in place of the person. The story continues: After their WEAC, they were forced to separate but social media made it easy for them not to separate entirely. The girl travelled to Lagos and he had no one in Lagos he can go to and that gave him serious emotional trouble but there was hope for they still were talking over the phone. Two of them got admissions but in different institutions. He got his within the state while she got outside the state. She lost her phone barely two weeks after her resumption in the school. As if it was planned, he lost his own phone at the end of first semester and none of them did welcome back, which means, they lost contact. After one year of no communication, providence brought them together again. Their love grew stronger this time. Kissing was just like the air they breathe in. they cared for each other with love messages in the morning, afternoon, evening and night. Lengthy calls were their daily meals. Their feelings were as strong as whatever you can think of.

Latter Days: Sometimes, love can make one not to think straight. When one latter regains his thinking ability, decision then may not be favourable to the situation that person and his/her lover may be. It is always good to take a bold step in life and be ready to face whatever may come out of it. That is how to live an authentic life. The Story continues: The girl latter got a young man who loves her so much, who proposed to her. She was in dilemma for she did not want to leave the other one and also she knew that he will not marry her. She accepted the latter man. They planed everything necessary for their marriage and fixed date for their marriage ceremony. She could not tell the boy for she was afraid of the outcome. It happened that one of the boy’s friend asked him one day. “Guy, you allow another man carry your babe?”  He could not understand it and he asked further questions and got the news in detail. When he confronted the girl, she started crying telling him that she could not afford to lose him. After all said and done, the marriage came to pass. The boy nearly committed suicide because of that. He was not himself for some months, even a years or two years.

What Happened Next: It is very difficult to break old relationship especially the one that has lasted for years. It is not issue of distance or change of environment or people around rather, it is issue of change the psych and erasing memories or replacing memories. Let us continue with our story: The girl was married but no wedding, so she told her husband that sex must be after wedding. She said that for she had plans. She continued with her communication with her first love and life was moving with divided attention. On the Valentine’s Day that followed the marriage and before wedding. She invited the boy to her house for the husband was not around. They spent time together again. They kissed normally. The girl told him that she wanted a favour from him. He replied immediately in affirmation. She asked him “Take my virginity for I cannot give it to another man.” He was confused for some minutes, but before he could get himself, he was already on top of her. What a mighty fall? After that, they continued seeing themselves and having sex every now and then. After the wedding, she became pregnant and after nine months she gave birth to a boy who happened to resemble the first boyfriend.

It is Very Difficult: 

To forget the first man and woman in life is a very difficult thing. Even if you do not love the person, it is still very difficult. Worst is if you were in love. Anyone that takes a girl’s virginity, it will be difficult for her to forget him, likewise a boy. To go in may be easy but to come out may be seriously difficult. It will be like the story of the goat that did not measure its stomach at the door of the ban it went with tortoise who continued measuring its own, to steal. When the owner came back, it was difficult for the goat to run. We can continue here: It was very difficult for them to wriggle themselves out from the problem relating to the boys resemblance of her first love, though they succeeded. The boy decided to call it a quit with the girl after passing through the first problem. It was a serious trouble with them. They were passing through emotional trauma. The boy changed his mobile number, blocked everything about him on social media and travelled. He stayed for years, found himself another girl and he latter forgot her entirely. The problem is no more on the boy’s side but now on the girl’s side for each time she sees her first son, she remembers her first love and it could not leave her. It was a serious problem on her and her marriage. She sometimes think of killing the child or running away and may other evil thoughts.

God and man can help: When one is in this type of problem, it is no longer a question of beating or scolding or blaming rather, it is now a question of going back to the creator who also created love and those who are experts in the field of helping those in that type of problem. Let us just finish the story: The husband being a just man noticed all these all these years and finally decided not to follow people’s advice of taking another wife and sending her away, but to help his woman, himself and his family. He engaged the family in serious prayer and also took his wife to a psychologist who helped the family. Prayer and concealing were the way out of the situation of the woman. They are now living in peace. And also the first love of the woman and his own family being family friends now.

The Arrow was removed: It depends on the people who are or were in love to remove the arrow that is in their hearts and people around them that will help them. The boy made the first move and the husband of the woman helped to finish it up. Love demands sacrifice and this sacrifice can come in many ways. Either by doing like the boy or the husband, they both sacrificed something serious. It is very important to examine the ups and downs of the relationship you are going into before you go into it. The problem with them, was that they did not examine the relationship. They were just dancing to the tone of the love without control. It is never evil to fall in love or to be in love but the problem is when it takes away your self-control. Self-control is very important in every relationship so that, when it stops, you can build another one successfully and continue your life. IF YOU MUST LOVE, LOVE WISELY. THANKS.

FROM YOUR BROTHER. TOBE EZE.