On the Death of Ejike Eze
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| Ejike died at 37 |
Nwanne m lawanuo. Chineke nna kporo gi o. Nwanne m jee zuru ike n' ogu ebiela.
As an African, I have been very much aware of this ideology but I saw it most now that I am mourning Ejike Eze. Some after consoling me will ask me if he was married and I will answer innocently “No” as it should be and I got three comments that made me to write this.
One person said, he was late already for not marrying till now.
The other said, Chai, he should have married before now. And the last person said,
Why has he not married, at least…… Continue Reading.......
All these questions and comments are not only for Ejike Eze but for many youths that died unmarried. My own questions to these are now
Had it been he (they) married, would it have stopped death?
Had it been he (they) married, would the wife (wives) had stopped death?
Or one of the children or even the children stopped death?
Does marriage give immunity against death?
The answer to all my questions is “No” and I am aware of that.
I am well aware of the African idea of somebody giving birth to those that will replace him or her (so that his linage will continue) when the person dies, but what I am trying to say now is that, those things do not count as important as we take them now.
We should think about the children the wife that will become a widow and the child or children that will become fatherless, if the person dies, because once the person has been destined to die at this particular time I don’t think marriage will stop the person from dying. What will be the fate of the family? Our people strongly believe that Chukwu n' azu (God trains) but I am now telling you that Chukwu anaghi azu (God does not train), Chukwu n' enye aka (God helps). Human beings train and God helps by providing every necessary grace needed. Those their fathers are alive are finding it difficult to survive and we are breeding many spoiled children in the society and you are telling me that he should have given birth so that his linage will continue. Because we are wiser than God who made it so? Even the Bible asked the question, who is God’s adviser? (Isaiah 40:12-13 and Romans 11:34). Maybe, he should come to Africa and pick some of us who will advise him that when a young man wants to die, he should marry to continue his linage. (Rubbish thinking)
Had it been Ejike married last year or last two years or last three years or last four years or last five years and this year now at this particular time he dies what would have happened to his small family, what would have happened to the wife, what would happened to the children or child, is it not better to respect God’s will and accept the death as it is God’s plan than blaming him for not marrying on time?
You will easily say it because you have never been a young widow. Even old widows suffer hell talk more of young widows. Or after the death, she should remarry? As if it is easy to remarry. Or she should stay for the dead husband, stay with one or two kids (if they have gotten) so that all these evil uncles and relatives will be giving her the condition of helping them after having sex with her. Or her turning herself to a harlot just to make money and survive. Or making every effort to survive, leaving the children or child at the mercy of self training which will eventually spoil the child.
The worst sin we commit and we don’t consider it as one is the sin of. Let her stay and be giving birth for us. From which father please? Even St. Paul condemned it. He advised for her to remarry. (1 Corinthians 7:3 and following). We may not know the implications of what we are doing. I will discuss that one latter.
There is no age, no stage, no state of life in this world that somebody will die and every person will clap that this is a wonderful death, because if one person does not need the person, another needs the person which means there is no perfect age, no perfect stage of life that one should die but the funniest thing is that death does not respect any of these. Some of us who like to know our history very well will never wish the old to die. Children will never wish parents to die. Parents will never wish children to die. Newly married will never wish any to die. Old married, the same. Unmarried will never wish to die. Who will now die? After see all these, death said, “All will die” and death has been very serious with this statement.
Had it been he or they married, some would have said now, why did he bring this young lady out or young ladies out and left her or them in this world (and some who are wicked will still add, this wicked world)? Why did he or they bring these children into this world and he or they is or are now leaving them to suffer? Why did he or they marry at all if he or they knew he or they would not stay to train them? (as if the option of death and alive were presented to him or they and him or they chose death). These are not made by men rather God, so we should not blame any person for marrying early or marrying late or dying early or dying late no one would have wished to die early. Ejike or others did not wish to die now but he those that have died has (have) accepted it because it is the will of God, and not their own wills.
Now let me tell you the perfect time to die. The perfect time to die is to die when God destined us to die. Whether we like it or not we must die one day, whether we like it or not people must blame us, so we should always prepare for our death, I may not know whether Ejike prepared for his death or not (but I believe), but the most important thing is that we learn to prepare for our death no matter the situation, no matter the stage, no matter the state of life, we cannot escape death, it must surely come and we must surely accept it, we do not have option in this one and the worst is that we do not know when and how it will come.
Ejike, rest in peace, it is a pity that your death brought this right up but it is also good for me to tell people how I feel and how things should be. God planned that you will never bring any lady to a crossed road or any child out in this world and leave the person to suffer, you are a gentle guy and you never wanted any person to suffer because of you and this is the perfect time for you to die, you have died at the proper and perfect time and I am not blaming you for any reason. You reduced mourner and both genuine sympathizers and fake sympathizers. You are a Hero. Rest in peace. Rest in the Lord. Till we meet to part no more.
1. Eligwe ga abu ugwo nke Chukwu ga akwu anyi. Laba na ndokwa, Umunnem laba na ndokwa oga adiri unu mma laba na ndokwa.
2. Chetanu mbosi onwu nke gadiri mmadu. N' Ikpe nke gadirunu ugwo diri ndu unu. O Jesu meru ya ebere! O Jesu meru ya ebere
3. O Paradise, O Paradise, ebe anyi g' ezu ike, Ebe anyi g' anonyelu Jesu, N' otito di ebebe. Obu ebe ndi oma na afu Chukwu anya........
4. Leenu ya ihe anyi bu kobu na mbu leenu ya. Ihe obu ugbua ka anyi nile ga abucha. Mgbe oge gee eru
5. Na anya ndi nzuzu odika ha nwuru anwu mana n' aka Oseburuwa ka ha no na ezu ike.
6. Jerusalem, ulo ndukwa, nke bu soso anuli, ebe anahu Chukwu anya na ndokwa juru obi.
7. Ka ndi muozi duba gi na Paradise. Ka ndi egburu maka Chineke zute gi mgbe I na abia. Wee durue gi n' obodo nso, durue gi n' obodo nso ahu bu Jerusalem
8. Nwanne m lawanuo. Chineke nna kporo gi o. Nwanne m jee zuru ike n' ogu ebiela
9. Eeh anyi biara abia na eluwa. Eeh, Eligwe bu ebe obibi nke mmadu. Eeh eluwa bu oriri kanyi putara. Onye nojuru, owere isi lebe anyi ni igwee.
Ejike Ladoo.
Chukwu nara Mkpuruobi gi.
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