How Are You? By Tobe Eze

 How Are You?

I think the habit of “how are you” should be a thing all of us should hold very dear. Many are being forgotten especially when they need the “how are you” of others. The act of visiting people is one of our qualities and traditions as Africans but some are now neglecting that fact. Solidarity can heal a dying soul. This visitation in our tradition is both in good time and bad time.

If your friend or relation tells you that he or she is sick, do not presume that he or she must recover, always ask the person “how are you”? If the person tells you that either the parent or sibling is sick, always ask how far. Visiting the person is an added advantage which will give a serious joy to the person involved.

Solidarity in the moments of crisis is always saving than in moments of joy. If we can develop to show concern in critical situations of our friends and relations, they will always be greatful to us. I can testify from some visits we made to our friends. We visited a classmate who’s mother has been sick and he has not stopped thanking us. We visited our classmates that were denied the same opportunity with us and they have not finished telling the story till date. Continue Reading............

On another Note

Some of us have also lost our spirit of appreciation. Some take their visitors who come to show them solidarity as burdens. They feel their oji to the visitor is equal to or even above the sacrifice the person who visited has made. It is an act of love to visit someone and we should always appreciate that and not count how much we spend on visitors. 

It is true some visitors are burdens but we should learn how to differentiate between them. We are not best of persons to be visited, if anyone counts you worthy of visiting, then sacrifice whatever you can and welcome the person. Our lives are always incomplete and can only be completed through others.

Let us revive the spirit of “how are you” among us and it will do us good. Let us let to call, chat, visit and ask about people we have something to do with and we shall better our lives. Thanks