YOU SAID WAHALA BE LIKE WHAT AGAIN? By Tobe Eze

 YOU SAID WAHALA BE LIKE WHAT AGAIN?

None of them will betray anyone. 

One day, those days when men were boys. We were going for the Altar Boys (Mass Servers) practise in my parish. We were six going that day. It was the period of Akatakpa our local masquerade. We saw two of them coming from afar. We agreed among us that none of us will run since it was church activity that we were going. I was fronting the movement. As we were approaching them, I was still moving with courage that there would be no way they would have attacked us because we were in group. To my greatest surprised, when I came face to face with the Edom, I noticed that I was the only one there. When I looked around in my fear and trembling, I saw my colleagues in the bushes already running for their dear lives. I had no other option that to stand and watch the evil that will be melted on me by the two Akatakpa. As God may have it, they just looked at me (may be as a child), left me and continued their journey. I ran away with serious fear and trembling. When I meet with my friends, they asked me what happened but I did not answer them because I was already hurt by the betrayal. I continued to carry that grudge for years. I only forgave them years late when I understood the real teaching of the church. Continue Reading....... 

Why am I telling this story? The wound of betrayal is one of the wounds that are only healed by God’s grace or miracle. The scientists have not discovered the cure to the wound of healing. Since we have seen that this wound is very difficult to heal, then we should always use the vaccine which is to avoid betraying people. It is always very bad and evil to betray people or a person whom you have discussed something or reached agreement with. Even if you feel the thing is evil that you do not feel like doing it again, please make effort to inform the person before hand for the betrayal may give birth to a greater evil.

The good man that will always be there for you. 

It pains when you hear some girls telling their experiences from so called lover boys. They will promise them heaven and earth but deep within them, they know that those promises are just a gateway to their hidden agenda which will be betrayal. If you know you do not love these girls, please, tell them on time than making them to feel loved and being vulnerable to all form of evils from you. Girls do not forgive emotional pains easily, be careful and they can go to any length to revenge.

A girl will tell a boy that she loves him and be milking the boy to train another boy she loves. Ana emelu nwanyi, ona emelu onye di ya mma. You will think you have gotten the angel of your life without knowing that you are just fetching water with a leaking can. I am not justifying the rate by which boys are using girls for rituals but we should be careful for this betrayal of a thing also contributes to some of these evils in the society. When the boy is hurt, he may go to any level in order to pay back (though it is evil).

A friend will trust a friend with his or her life and tell you every secret about his or her life and you use that against him or her not to teach the person or to correct the person where he or she is getting it wrong rather, you have taken it as an advantage to shine. If someone is sharing his or her secrets with you, know it that that is the highest level of trust you can get from anyone on earth and that should be guarded jealously and never to be betrayed. If you notice anything bad with the secret the he or she has shared with you, also go in that secret and correct the person and never try to betray the person. The result may not be wonderful one. This can go to the extent of taking lives. Be guided please.

In the story that I started with, I found it very difficult to forgive them even when those Akatakpa did nothing to me. Come and think of it if I had suffered any pain from them. Come also and think of it, people who suffer some kind of hardship from the result of our betrayals. We should know that gaining forgiveness from them may be very difficult. Come and think of a girl who is used and dumped by a boy she trusted with all her life. Come and think of a boy that trusted a girl and even went to the extent of training the girl and at last was paid back with betrayal. Think of a friend who has shared his or her dark side of life with you in secret and in confidence and you have betrayed the person. Come and think of a person that trusted you with his or her life and at last the person notices that you are the reason behind his or her predicament. Think of that young promising guy that you have been deceiving to be helping but using him and his destiny to succeed, what will be his reaction if he finds out what you are doing? Think of that girl who has been your errand girl thinking she will be paid hugely at last and you end up betraying her. Not all will have the grace to understand the real teaching of the church on forgiveness (though all are expected to).

All these groups are very difficult to forgive (though not impossible). That little girl who knows nothing about love in her adolescence trusts you, please do not betray her. That little boy who trusts that help will come from you, please do not deceive him. That girl who is making the whole world to know that she is in love with you because of the sweet things you are telling her, please do not disappoint her. That young Guy that has sacrificed everything to prove to you how much he loves you, please do not betray him. That your friend who thinks that you are a part of him or her, please do not backbite him or her. In any way you will betray anyone, please avoid it so that we will heal hearts and not wound hearts. If we are making promises, let us make sure they are positive and make effort to fulfil them in due time. If we commit ourselves, let us avoid omitting ourselves as well for it is a serious contradiction and may cause us more harm than good.  Avoid betrayal by all means, if we do this, we shall have a better and sweet world to enjoy that what we are suffering now. WAHALA BE LIKE THE HURT OF BETRAYAL, E NO DEY HEAL FAST FAST. THANKS.