*LIVE YOUR LIFE IN YOUR OWN DESIGN*
*THE MIND IS EVERYTHING 👌. WHAT YOU THINK IS WHAT YOU BECOME*
1. Back then in school. I attended a unisex school where I found myself mixed up with girls of different calibre. There were the good, the bad and the ugly but most of all: the happening ones who we dubbed with the name *Ashanti's*
You see, the way these girls spend money, hangout, forge a lie in order to get a pass permit out of the school would give you the urge to be like them. Continue Reading......
So on one instance, I wished to be the same as they were and I ventured into it. I joined and enjoyed the ecstasy. But with time, I realized that even though they were together in unity; we envied one another. They had their individual problems. They also back stabbed themselves. They just did that to cool off the insecurity within them... They camouflaged being in peace when they were living a lie.
I saw all these, and I told myself: "this is not my life. Let me live my own life "
*One should not be a product of circumstances but of his/her own decisions*
And with that, I left the group 👇
2. As a growing up girl, I had this girl that my mum always compared me with whenever I misbehaved.
Personally that comparison of a thing dampens my spirit.
So, I swallowed my pride and sought to know the girl better (Chidiebere)
On getting close, I found out that she always had this inferiority complex whenever I was around her. In a good day, I asked what the qualms could be from her but she sauntered away to my dismay.
I concluded that it may be her mood swings
The next time I went, I found out from her siblings that she was in her room but wouldn't want to see me. I went into that room and on exchanging pleasantries, she remained mute to all the jokes I've been cracking.
When I stood to leave seeing that her countenance was not ok, she started slowly: "how do you manage to be so perfect, I mean you are intelligent and seem to be incharge of any situation?" I get that a lot but hello 😮
This is someone my mum always compares me with...
I could not give her an immediate reply. But I landed on these words: *I don't give myself an assignment that I can't handle, I do things the way I feel right and I am myself* This was my answer
We continued being sisters but I was careful to avoid doing things that will make her go into self seclusion ✌️👇👇👇
3. Now another one is, I was walking down on my own after a benediction on a good day when my friend Edith who was running to catch up on me asked me to wait for her. And I did. When she caught up on me.
She was still gaining her normal rhythmic breath.
Shortly she started: "Ada I have something to tell you" I asked her to go on.
"Where I went with my mother so she could make her hair" she continued "you were being discussed, they said you feel too big; you hardly greet someone; you don't relate with anyone" and she (Edith) was asked if I (Ada) cleared my papers, WAEC my papers... She told them that it was only mathematics that I couldn't clear
"They added that it was good so that I could calm down a bit"
Then she asked me to change. This was someone who knew me better than anyone else that told me this. I was disappointed Sha.
I thanked her and continued to trail my way home but I was in a dampened spirit. When I got home, I told my mom and she said: *nevermind all that, you just need to work on your social life. I am the one who should judge in that. Other than that, do not impress anyone but yourself* "you did not fail your WAEC, you did your best and you can defend it. I'm not sure if they can do that too" she continued *for them to sit and discuss you means you're an intimidation to them because it says when one can't attain your level, they gossip to gain your attention*👇
So in conclusion, my dear friends. I said three things today if you read carefully.
This world is a small place with different people, *it's either you stand out or you fall in* if you understood someone, you handle them the way you understood. And in this life there's something you call *grace* eg. You help someone else in exam, she gets a C6 with cleared papers while you the donor gets F9 which is the only hindrance. That's grace. So don't compare or flow with my tide or even kill yourself because of critics...
This life is now ruled by conscience and Bible: Jesus had many enemies even as he was good but he still did His own thing in an impeccable way.
He and Mary should be our model. *Live your life in your own design and Be yourself*
Thanks and God bless you
*Brigid Adanna*
✍️Semi Danhill
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