MARRIED BACHELOR.
In philosophy, this topic or title of this write up is a
fallacy (that is crime in philosophy) but I am ready to commit it provided I point
out what I have experienced in this life. Bachelor is a man of age who is yet
to get married. This is just a lay man’s definition of it, but these days,
people are now complicating issues for us.
1.
Fight
over a girl.
2.
Having
many Girls around you (sex).
3.
Single
but Married.
4.
Conclusion:
Any Remedy?
1. FIGHTING OVER A
GIRL: A man who is
single, will woo a girl who is also single not with the intention of marriage
but for hedonism and when he gets her, he will like to privatize her but he
will not marry her. Ọdị mma ọyị mana ọdịghị mma ọlụlụ. When he sees another man
around her, he will like to fight like a wounded lion in other not to lose her
to any other man as if she is his wife. Sometimes men kill themselves because
of a girl whom they know quite alright that they will not marry, none of them
is ready to marry her. It was a life experience in the year 2012 around middle
August when I was spending my holidays at home after my WAEC. Two boys (guys),
who have been friends from childhood were fighting over a particular girl whom
they were aware that they will not marry. The first guy claims that he has been
taking good care of this girl for over three years and now this other guy is
trying to water all his efforts all these years. The second was telling the
first that it is not how far but how well? It is not about spending or taking
care of her for years but it is about the one the girl loves most. And you
should know that ọ bụ a na-emelu nwanyị, ọ na-emelu onye dị ya mma. You may have
spent your whole life taking care of this girl, but have you ever considered
thinking about if the girl loves you. It is a game of those who are wise. At this
juncture the first guy could not take it again, he got annoyed and they started
fighting. When we were trying to separate them, we did not know that one of
them had a hammer in his pocket and he hit one of us with that hammer and he
fainted immediately. One who does not know anything about the issue, only
trying to help got serious injury. After all said and done, they became serious
enemies from then till now. The girl in question is now married with kids to
another man all together and they are still enemies because of her. Continue Reading.....................................
The English has made it clear to us that the beautiful ones
are not yet born. Why do we kill ourselves with and for what is passing and not
even morally right? These girls are not making us in life rather they are destroying
us day after day. Men die anyhow these day and we capitalize it on poison always
without thinking about what men are also doing these days. A n’ azọ nwanyị ka aga asị na ha
gwụrụ agwụ. They reduce us both intellectually, wisely, spiritually,
socially, economically and in all ramifications of life.
Intellectually: When we attach ourselves to or with
these girls, we find it difficult to concentrate in life and worst still if we
are students longing to be intellectual giants. We find it hard to read and
even when we read at all, we will find it difficult also to comprehend what we
are reading.
Wisely: Someone who fights over a girl who
is not and who he knows that she will not be she wife, just fighting because of
pleasure, is the person reasonable or wise? The answer is NO. They take away
our rationality, our thinking faculty and control us anyhow they want. When we
become angry with them, once she (they) say(s) one or two things, our hearts
will melt like wax that is inside a burning furnace. You spend without thinking
and even when they give you the little “thank you” you would have received you
will reply “don’t mention”. Too bad.
Spiritually: One who commits fornication always
with all the lies that follow it cannot be spiritual or spiritually balanced. The
person is as vulnerable as anything on earth and too canal and any spiritual
temptation that comes his way will defeat the person.
Socially: As in the above story of two
friends that fought over a girl, the two guys after that incident started to
avoiding us. After making enemies through fighting over or for unnecessarily,
to socialize will become a very big problem for the person. Even when the
person tries to socialize, once she comes or calls or chats, the person will
withdraw from his peers to attend to her. Ụwa siri ike.
Economically: Some of us do not dress well because of girls
they are taking care of. Some do daily or monthly or yearly account for one or
two or even more than girl(s). After suffering to get cash, all will be spent on
a particular girl or particular girls and one who suffered for it will go
hungry. Will be looking for another person’s thing that he will steal. Who is
cheating who? Some lose their lives on the account of fighting over or for a
girl or girls. Tụfịa!
2. HAVING MANY GIRLS
AROUND YOU (SEX):
One who has many girls to take care of and to satisfy is gradually approaching
his grave. There is this guy in my place that is called Chidi Ụmụnwanyị. He jumps from this girl to another. He spends all
he gets to take care of them all so that they do not complain. (Ofogori
ji nwanyị). He will come back from work and still be going around
looking for someone who will borrow him money because his daily incomes are no
more enough to solve his problems. The worst is that the energy to work is no
more there for releases sperm almost on daily bases (every night). It does not
end in releasing but also making sure that he satisfies the girl for the day. To
be frank, he is now older than his age. Ọkago nkaa. Involving yourself in
this type of thing is just digging your own grave with your own hands. Contaminating
all sort of diseases on earth. Disease is as easy as anything on earth to get
through this. Avoid this, for there is no life in it.
3. SINGLE BUT MARRIED: One who does not stay at home again
not that he is looking for what will make ends meet but going to live with a
woman, again, one who is no longer thinking about himself and a way forward in
life but about another person who is not part of you is now married to that
person because it is only expected of husbands to do so to their wives. If you
spend all you have and are in life on a girl or girls and you are single, know
it that you are married and this is the worst type of marriage one should
involve himself in.
4. CONCLUSION/ANY
REMEDY: I have just
shared very little about what I know about a married bachelor. All the stories
above are true life stories and they are stories that touch the heart. In other
to avoid these stories that touch the heart, we have to watch our lives. No one
of age is ignorant of good things to do and evils to be avoided. We are just to
tell ourselves the truth and stand on the side or path of truth and make amends
and things will be well with us. A bachelor who is married is a deadly disease
and abnormality in his life. So, we should avoid it and make our lives to be
focused by planning our lives. He who fails to plan, plans to fail. Unexamined life
is not worth living by Socrates. Let us examine ourselves and our lives and
make a sharp turn.
Psalm 127:1= Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except
the Lord keep the city, the watchman wakes
but in vain. We rely on prayers and graces of God to come out and not to
go in to this type of marriage in life. God is there for us and he will save
us. THANKS FOR READING.
That is the problem with our community these days.
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