WHY
MEN ARE CALLED "GROOM”, AND THE WOMAN “THE BRIDE” ON WEDDING DAY?..
Why
is the newly wedded man called groom and the woman called bride? A friend of
mine got tired of his wife just about six months after wedding. He complained
bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with
her; he went on to say that he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not
respond immediately because I knew I must tell him that right thing, so I went
home. And that is
What
gives birth this message? Many men have broken up with their wives because they
end up not being the wife that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten
that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task. Nobody
calls the woman wife on her wedding day but bride, because it is the man that
will groom his bride to become the wife. That is why the man is called
‘bridegroom or groom’ and the word grooming has to do with patiently nurturing,
teaching, tending and helping someone to become what he or she should be. It is
therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar of marriage is
matured enough to patiently groom his bride to become the wife. The man is not
supposed to just expect the bride to automatically become the wife, she must be
groomed. It is clear that many of us men have unnecessary expectations when we
were getting married, we want some magic to happen to our wives, we want them
to become what we have had in mind about who we want our wives to be; not
considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except
you teach her.
Our
expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change
takes time and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we
want. So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given
her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a
hawk? God often brings people that are opposites of each other together in
marriage so that they can help each other in their place of weaknesses. If your
wife is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is
needed? The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept people before
attempting to change them. Of course, our wives are not from our backgrounds,
so it will take time for them to adjust. Stop trying to change her, accept her,
love her, teach her and be patient with her; that is what grooming is all
about. She is going to be your wife but she is your bride now, so groom her.
Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you a hawk, she cannot fly
so be patient with her. I don’t believe that your marriage can’t work, be
patient and allow God to help you.
Have
a great enjoying life……………………………….
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