I WILL MARRY YOU.
The "I will marry you" syndrome is becoming too high these
days and almost all of such promises do not lead to the actual marriage. It is
a mark of gentility to make a promise and fulfil it. The scripture testifies to
this when it says through the psalmist Make a vow to the Lord and fulfil it (Psalm
76:11 and others Deuteronomy 23:21-23, Numbers 30:2,)”. Why this topic?
Many stories have been told about those who promised themselves
marriage at their youthful age and after they will marry and make a very
wonderful homes. There are also many stories of people who make the same
promise but after they will not marry. They will part in peace. Some again with
the same promise will part out of one problem or the other. If all these are
possible, how do we know the one that will end in a peaceful way?
1.
It takes people who are mature to
make this promise and fulfil it. If we look at those who made this promise and
fulfilled it, they did not make that promise at the beginning of their
friendship at or at their early age. Even Aristotle in his explanation of
perfect friendship said that it takes time to grow. They meet themselves, study
themselves and come to a conclusion that they can be together and they go for
it. Mostly this type makes a wonderful home
2.
The second is like the first
one but the only difference is that they noticed that they cannot live together
and so decided to part ways. Many things may cause this but the success lies in
understanding. It maybe a biological problem, behavioural problem, in some
places tribal problem, parental or relation’s problem and so on. All these can
be solved through understanding.
3.
The Last is what is causing
trouble every now and then in our society. There are people who have not known
what the world is all about but they go ahead promising themselves marriage. I
had a classmate in the secondary school who promised a girl that he will marry
her in our JSS2. Before our SS3, the girl had already overgrown him. That
destroyed the whole thing. Because this last one is where my interest lies, I
will take time to explore it.
Girls, why do you allow yourself to be deceived so much with the
statement I will marry you? Does life
end in marriage? Boys why do we use this statement I will marry you knowing that it is too expensive for girls to
deceive them? The consequence may be above us. Many girls have met or are
experiencing hell now on earth because of this “I will marry you” syndrome.
Girls please not all men are serious with that statement, they are just using
it to get you to bed and probably, trouble. Boys, if you know you will not
marry, please do not promise. We are using this to spoil our society. Because
of limited space, I will not tell stories but there are many that would have
brought this to earth. We may individually have many of them. Ka anyi were ire
anyi guo eze anyi onu (let us watch this ugly trend) and we will enjoy the
fruit of true love and true “I will marry
you”. THANKS.
TOBE EZE (DAN~HILL).