I WILL MARRY YOU. By Tobe Eze

I WILL MARRY YOU.

The "I will marry you" syndrome is becoming too high these days and almost all of such promises do not lead to the actual marriage. It is a mark of gentility to make a promise and fulfil it. The scripture testifies to this when it says through the psalmist Make a vow to the Lord and fulfil it (Psalm 76:11 and others Deuteronomy 23:21-23, Numbers 30:2,)”. Why this topic?

Many stories have been told about those who promised themselves marriage at their youthful age and after they will marry and make a very wonderful homes. There are also many stories of people who make the same promise but after they will not marry. They will part in peace. Some again with the same promise will part out of one problem or the other. If all these are possible, how do we know the one that will end in a peaceful way?

1.       It takes people who are mature to make this promise and fulfil it. If we look at those who made this promise and fulfilled it, they did not make that promise at the beginning of their friendship at or at their early age. Even Aristotle in his explanation of perfect friendship said that it takes time to grow. They meet themselves, study themselves and come to a conclusion that they can be together and they go for it. Mostly this type makes a wonderful home 

2.       The second is like the first one but the only difference is that they noticed that they cannot live together and so decided to part ways. Many things may cause this but the success lies in understanding. It maybe a biological problem, behavioural problem, in some places tribal problem, parental or relation’s problem and so on. All these can be solved through understanding.

3.       The Last is what is causing trouble every now and then in our society. There are people who have not known what the world is all about but they go ahead promising themselves marriage. I had a classmate in the secondary school who promised a girl that he will marry her in our JSS2. Before our SS3, the girl had already overgrown him. That destroyed the whole thing. Because this last one is where my interest lies, I will take time to explore it.

Girls, why do you allow yourself to be deceived so much with the statement I will marry you? Does life end in marriage? Boys why do we use this statement I will marry you knowing that it is too expensive for girls to deceive them? The consequence may be above us. Many girls have met or are experiencing hell now on earth because of this “I will marry you” syndrome. Girls please not all men are serious with that statement, they are just using it to get you to bed and probably, trouble. Boys, if you know you will not marry, please do not promise. We are using this to spoil our society. Because of limited space, I will not tell stories but there are many that would have brought this to earth. We may individually have many of them. Ka anyi were ire anyi guo eze anyi onu (let us watch this ugly trend) and we will enjoy the fruit of true love and true “I will marry you”. THANKS.

TOBE EZE (DAN~HILL).