GIRLS: ANY
RESPONSIBILITY IN THE CHURCH AND WORLD?
INTRODUCTUON:
What is CYWO?
It is Catholic Young Women Organization. This is the fourth arm in the Holy
Roman Catholic Church. This particular arm makes the Church a full Church and
it helps to make the different stages in life complete in the Church. The group
came out from CMO and CWO; that is Catholic Men Organization and Catholic Women
Organization. This is the fruit of wedding in the Church. For one to be
qualified to join this group, you have to receive the sacrament of baptism. Either
adult baptism or infant baptism and first Holy Communion. This particular
organization has two group in them, which are the junior and senior groups. The
senior in most cases pay more than the junior (that is on things about money).
One continues to be a member till one weds. It helps to keep young women closer
to the church.
WHO ARE THE MEMBERS OF THIS GROUP?
This group is made up
of only girl of age. There should be no boy or man among, unless he wants
somebody or something. This group incorporates everyone provided you are a
girl. They accept both blind, dumb, deaf, cripple, short, tall, fat and thin
girls. You can also find among them the learned ones and illiterates, you can
also see there those that talk too much and those who rarely talk. You will
also meet those who use there initiative and those who do not use theirs. There
are also those that we call ITK that
is I Too Know. They will always clam to know all. You will also see those that
we may address as VIP that is Very
Important Person. They will always think that without them the church will
fall. They will always like to be recognized as pillars that every other thing
rests on. They go contrary to what our Lord Jesus thought us in Luke 14:11 “For everyone who raises himself up will be humbled, and the one who
humbles himself will be raised up”, we should not place ourselves in
top positions first rather we should wait for the rightful time. Those that
make things happen are there and also those who watch things happen. There are
those who are kind and those who are wicked among them. There is nothing you
cannot find in them.
WHAT AND WHAT ARE THERE WORKS:
All God’s creatures are good and
useful. Girls are God’s creatures, so they can be of use in many ways.
a.
In the Family:
Without them in a family, for me the family is somehow incomplete.
b.
In the Church:
If they are not in the Church, there will be also no male gender will show up,
for it is there that Boys and girls meet to worship God in QUOT.
c.
In the World:
Behind every successful man there must be a woman behind it.
d.
In
life: When a girl comes into the life of a man that man fills complete. That
was the reason for “this is the bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh” in Genesis 2:23.
ANY HARM FROM GIRLS:
There are nothing in
this world that has no side effect, it depends on how they are being used. Everything
is a two-edge sword, is now management that matters. If girls turn to be good
there will be no harm, but sometimes, some of them cause more harm than good to
the world around them. They can also be opposite of their works. As in:
a.
In the Family: They
sometimes light consuming fire that will consume them and their family members
in their various homes.
b.
In the Church:
If you look into many cases in the church, you will find out that they are
being caused by girls. They fight when they are corrected for not dressing like
those who are to worship God.
c.
In the World:
There is one igbo adage that says “Okwu Ụmụnwanyị adịghị ekwe okwukwu”
that is, that women’s cases are difficult to handle. They cause a lot of
troubles here and there. Some of them when you see them, you see case. How to
escape them may be difficult.
d.
In life: They
can shatter lives anyhow. Ha n’ awa obi mmadụ ka ọkpa. They do
not mercy for you when they are determined to harm you. They can bring death
closer to you.
SHOULD THERE BE ANY RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CYWO AND
CYMO?
Insofar
there is relationship between CMO and CWO there should also be a relationship
between CYMO and CYWO. But we preach here for a healthy relationship. For long
now there has been existing relationship between boys of our church and girls
of our church which is not healthy. Morality is our watch word in this our Holy
Mother Church. Some boys and girls join many groups or prayer groups in the
church for them to actualize their unhealthy dreams. The story of one time
choir master, who was using commanding
to book appointment with his female choristers. Not only in choir that you
find these people, they are everywhere in this our church. “Wolves in sheep clothing”.
And some are like the wolves that Jesus talked about when he was sending his
apostles out for work in Matthew 10:16. Those who are drawing
us back among boys and girls are many. That is why we should be more careful
about what we do in our church which is church of God. I personally encourage
healthy relationship for no one knows where and through which help will come.
And from healthy one, healthy marriage comes and many other good things. We
learn a lot from relationship. What and what can we learn from relationship…………………………………………………………………………?
ANY NEGETIVE
THING FROM RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CYWO AND CYMO?
There
are many negative things that come out of relationship among our boys and
girls. Any one…………………..? We know from onset that cat does not watch over rat and
do not watch over fish. In igbo Pusi adịghị eche oke nche ma ọ bụ oke iche azụ
nche. Boys are not all that good to watch over girls because igbo adage
said that “ihe n’ agụ nwanyị dị ime n’ agụ kwa onye tụrụ ya ime”. What
pleases the other may also please the other and things will get worse for us. Sometimes
one among the two may not have anything evil for the relationship, but advances
from the other may influence the other. Either the girl uses body language or
the boy uses vocal language. Girls are seduced by what they hear, while
boys are seduced by what they see. So the girl may do what was not in
the initial plan because of different words or concoction of words that the boy
uses on her. Words like these, you are the sugar in my tea, you are the
apple of my eyes, you are my blanket, I love you pass everyone even God, and
many other words they use. For boys, these types of cloths seduce them,
leggings, mini skit, bonshot, show breast, padding of breast, show back and
many others that I do not know their names. People are now facing Jericho,
while some are already there while our direction is Jerusalem. What
shall we do………………………………………….? We are not going to stop relationship because of
what they cause these days, but we are going to fight the way by which we
relate. How do we fight it……………………………..? We are faced with many challenges on
the issue of relationship. To whom shall we go? Who shall we relate with? Ihe
esiela ike. Things are hard. But we must continue, no be so? Sometimes
money cause a big problem, for some girls fall prey because of money, also in
some boys. Girls turn to be parasite always to boys. It will be like
competition, when you woo without money those with money will be taking or
going with girls. Or sometimes they will be robbing Peter to pay Paul. They
will be collecting from this one to sponsor the other. Sometimes it makes girls
to change their colour to please boys by making themselves iru Fanta ọkpa coke.
Some may turn to wild cats because of this thing called relationship.
ANY REMEDY TO THESE NEGATIVE EFFECT?
With God all things are possible. How do we approach them? That is our problem now.
But we must continue. In John 8:10-11 Jesus said “has no one condemned you, neither
do I condemn you: go and sin no more”. This is the
only way out. We should go and sin no more. We have to come out of Jericho and
face Jerusalem, for there are all we need. In Igbo ihe nile zuru oke ebe ahụ.
We have some remedies, and they are:
a. Be
open to God and ourselves: The problem we face sometimes is, that we are not
open to God who created us and even our own selves. Openness is the key to the
remedy of every problem we have. Tell the Doctor what is your problem and
he/she will know how to approach it. In Igbo ọya amara, n’ agwọla ya ọkara.
Sickness known is half cured. So we should be open to anything or any type of
relationship we engage. Ị sụọ ọkpọ ị mepe aka gị ka amara n’ onweghị
ihe iji sụọ ya.
b.
Sincerity: Eziokwu adịghịzị n’ ebe ụmụ
agbọghọ anyị nọọ. What we see these days is appalling. Girls are no more ready
to say the truth. When ask any of them anything about any relationship, the
person will deny to the cur. Amaghị mụ ihe ị n’ akọ. You mean me?
I don’t know what you are talking about. Who knows, if you do not know? Every
person is now claiming that she do not know. The truth remains that, if you do
not know, one day, either you know or it will know you. Ihe dị abụọ n’ otu ga eme.
Two things one must happen.
c.
Being Real: It is like without
being fake you are not a matured lady. Some changed their colour, eyelids, lips
colour and all what lot, just to attract attention. These attentions are not
necessary in life. They are just to distract you the more. Dirtiness, when you
see some of them sweat, you mercy for them. One asked me one day, “why
is it that you use white handkerchiefs and they do not dirty so much”?
The answer was too simple, I am not dirty as you are. It does not mean that she
does not take her bath, but she robs many things on her that make her dirty. Some
rob more than four lipsticks in one occasion. Three pancake, two eyes shadows
and many others. Let us be real please. Are we going to be…………..? It is only
corpse that the morticians rob all those things for them not to smell of decay.
d.
Keeping Good Relationship: “Tell
me your friend and I will tell you who you are”. Friends influence us
much. Keeping a boy who is sex addicted and telling me that you will be free is
a lie. For you will just pretend for a while and succumb to his needs and give
him what he wants. And remember the language “ka mụ nye ya ihea ka ọhapụ mụ”.
Who told you that he will leave you after taking it once? Ụzọ dị mma aga ya nga abụọ.
For the fact that you have given him the first one, you will still give him and
other persons two, three, four or even uncountable. That is how it starts, you
will always say, just is after this one nothing on earth will make me to do it
again. Akụkọ, Story, you are just joking, that will be a stepping
stone to what you will do in the future. Please abstain from bad friends. Biko
nuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuoooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
e.
Be Focused: He who fails to plan, plans to
fail. We have to have a target in life. If we have focus then we will
be able to examine our lives. For Socrates says that “unexamined life is not worth
living”. According to your Parish Priest Fr. Donatus Onah he says that “His
Parish Pastoral Program propels him to work harder to achieve his goals for the
parish”. This is just a typical example of being focused. When day
breaks, draw the time table of the day and try and follow it to the cur. At
night you examine the day and know what you have achieved and what you will add
more effort on.
f.
Prayer: Girls of these days do not
come to God at all. They have changed the prayer of Jacob after the fight with
an Angel of God in Genesis 32:27 “I will never let you go unless you bless
me”, to “I will never come to you
unless you bless me”. Prayer can change many thing in this our lives.
Hope in God and all will be well.
ANY RESPONSIBILITY
IN THE CHURCH AND WORLD?
There
are many responsibilities in the church and world at large for girls, which are
innumerable. Without girls in the church, it means God’s work of creation in
the world is not complete in the church. Or the world at large, if there are no
girls in the world, then it means God is not perfect. So seeing girls in the
world made God a perfect God. I will mention but a few of their works in the
church and world itself.
a. In
the Church, they perform in many ways.
They serve as choristers, alter girls, they
attract boys to church and so on. Name them…….
b. In
the world at large, they organize things more than boys, they solve many
problems though they create a lot of them. They can be trusted more than boys.
Name them………..
CONCLUSION
In
all, we all know that without girls there is no life, but on the other hand
without girls there will also be no big problem. They are like two edge sword,
once mishandle, they will cause more harm than good. But if handled well, they
produce unending good.
We pray to God to give us the grace to live out our lives in a
way that pleases him. To be of use to his church and the whole world.
Thanks for coming and
listening. May God bless you!
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