LIFE NO BALANCE (ỤWA ADIRỌ BALANCE) PART FOUR. By Tobe Eze

PEOPLE THAT I CANNOT UNDERSTAND

(Let us bear in mind, instead of money dividing us, let us divide the money)

There are people that I find it very difficult to understand in this world. I have tried all I could to see reasons to understand them but no reason has come to my mind. I have asked people around me to know if I will see reasons but none has offered any reason, especially the ones that I need. May be sharing it here will help me to get reasons to understand them. If you have reasons to give, please help a brother and probably brothers and sisters outside there who are also looking for reasons

The first group now is the group of persons who will meet you as your friend to help them and after the help, you will loose the friendship. These days, I have come to understand that we loose our friends more through the help we render to them when they are in need. I had this guy as my wonderful friend. One day, he called me and told me his challenges, that he needed some money to solve some of them. He pleaded that I should borrow him 20k that he would pay me up next month or if he could get it before one month, he would pay back. Continue Reading..........

LIFE NO BALANCE (ỤWA ADIRỌ BALANCE) PART THREE. By Tobe Eze

 

I DO NOT LOVE HIM

In my JS3 that was in 2009, one day, I visited my cousin brother. While going home, he told me that their first son bought him a new phone. He brought out the old one and asked me if I could use it. I gladly answered yes and collected the phone from him. I was really happy. I thanked him so much for the gift of the old Nokia Radio as it was called then. I quickly rushed home to show my people the gift that I got. When I reached home, I met my father and my elder sister. I told them about the phone. My elder sister who had no phone then was happier than myself and told me that I should know that it is our phone not mine. My father asked me again, Tobe, isu nee onye nuru gu phone (Tobe you said who gave you the phone)? I answered immediately, Ejike. My father asked me what I gave in return and I told him it was a free gift and he left without saying anything again. I was just rejoicing with my elder sister when my mother came back. I happily rushed her to break the news to her. After telling her, she asked me where my father was, I told her he was inside. She met him inside and after their discussion inside, she came out and told me. Tobe iji ewechi phonenu hu az mbe ishi wete, irue ogo phone nee anyi ji ama (Tobe, you will take that phone back to wherever you got it from, when you reach the level of having phone, we will know). Continue Reading.....

FRIENDSHIP AND TOLERANCE. By Victor Obinwa

  

As they say a man without anyone to confide in is either an island or has psychological or emotional problem. And for you to grow and pass through some certain phases in life, there must be people you meet and they have roles and contributions to make in your life. Sometimes, they might make positive or negative contribution but be it as it may be, they are all contributing factors to our growth.

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between two people or Is a distinctively personal relationship that is grounded in a concern on the part of each friend for the welfare of the other, for the others sake and that involves some degree of intimacy. Continue Reading..........

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. By Victor Obinwa

     

In this article, we are going to discuss domestic violence its side effects and remedies.

Domestic violence is not something that is meted out on one gender, it’s something that affects us all.

 Domestic violence can be said to be any form of abuse or violence in a relationship between adults or adolescents. Or it can be said to be an attempt to gain dominance and control over the other by the use of force or violence. It can escalate from threats to verbal assaults to violence. And the outcome of it all which is physical injury came to be severe. It can also cause depression, emotional breakdown, and reduction of self-worth which is very bad. Continue Reading.......

LIFE NO BALANCE (ỤWA ADIRỌ BALANCE) PART TWO. By Tobe Eze

 

MAYBE WE SHOULD STOP LOVING OR BEING LOVED

I just started a discussion with a friend and he immediately introduced the topic of the need to get money. The topic pleased me also and I enjoyed the gist till when we started the analyse what is happening in the world today, especially in this part of the world. Maybe when God said increase and multiply, he was talking about avenues to make money whether legitimate or not. I have come to understand that you cannot discuss with an average youth for about 10 minutes without discussing money and how to make it. Sincerely speaking, money is good but I must add, legitimate money is sweet. So, all these ways of making money, we should make effort to follow legitimate ways in other to enjoy sweet money.

In the afternoon yesterday, a new number called me, when I took the call, it was from a lady who has a sweet, romantic and polished English voice. She told me that she was calling from one poverty liberation company. That I was recommended to them that I am a wonderful, gentle, intelligent etc man. I quickly asked her, who told them that I am poor and in need to be liberated (in actual sense I am poor, if you have a legitimate means, biko, help a brother)? Continue Reading............

LIFE NO BALANCE (ỤWA ADIRỌ BALANCE) PART ONE. By Tobe Eze

 

FIRST THING FIRST BIKO

E go choke some people as I dey change name of the title anyhow. They said change is constant and Nigeria is a living testimony to it. So, make I also join dey change anyhow. May things are not balanced in this life and I think it will be wonderful if we see them and know how we can help ourselves.

I have been wondering what gives some people joy in this life. After watching some of us, I swear E dey choke me. How can someone that his family is going hungry every day be answering Ome ego 1 na South? Some people are very good in pleasing people very far from them and who may not even appreciate the gesture and leaving those very close to them who are in serious need of help. How can a man go to church’s bazaar and be the highest donor while his maid in the house is home because of school fees? His parents in the village are already fetching water with buckets each time it rains inside their rooms because of faulty roofs? His brothers and sisters both nuclear and extended are finding it difficult to feed very well? Onwere ka odi. I am not condemning donation in the church, I also benefit from that, I am only pointing at first thing first. Let us start from the grassroots. Continue Reading.......

VILLAGE MEETING (MEETING ỤMỤNNA) PART SIX By Tobe Eze

 

ỤFỌDỤ ỤMỤ NWANYỊ DỊ EGWU

I know they were happy for the last write up but they will not like to take corrections that will come from this one, they will like to defend themselves. Ụfọdụ ụmụ nwanyị dị egwu. So women can be something else. After watching how they treat their families you will begin to wonder if they are created by the devil or still God. In all, some are very wonderful and are the answer to the biblical passage that said he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favours from the Lord.

I just wonder how some women feel when they watch their husbands after working throughout the day to come home not to meet food because they went for one meeting or the other. I am just wondering how they enjoy telling their husbands that they could not cook because they had meeting and it does not happen once or twice but frequently. If you know that you have a meeting to attend, why not prepare something earlier and keep for the family than using that as an excuse. Even religious meetings should not take the place of your family. Some men spend most of their times in eateries because of this type of situation and from there, they may fall into wrong hands that will take them away from you. Please gaurd your husband jealousy and not allow what you can avoid to take him away from you. Continue Reading................

VILLAGE MEETING (MEETING ỤMỤNNA) PART FIVE By Tobe Eze

MY WIFE IS A CHEAT

Some men are very funny oooo. Because they married, their wives should change their sim cards, stop answering calls, stop chatting, stop visiting friends, delete all their social handles etc. You have not started. Any little call or chat, the woman is already cheating on him. Lekwanu anya. Do you think she had no friends before you married her? Do you think you were the only person that wanted to marry her? Do you know how many persons she rejected only to marry you? Biko, no go dey do pass yourself. I am not in anyway saying that there is no cheating, I am only trying to point out some points or behaviours of men that are not wonderful.

Do not search your wife’s messages and chats, they are not the best way to protect your wife and marriage. If you show your wife that you do not suspect her, if you show her that you trust her, 80% of them will show you maximum love and will not cheat on you. Even if the person is cheating, God will help you and expose her one day. But if you continue to show them that you do not trust them, you will see another side of them. Listening to her calls will not stop a cheat from cheating, she will just codify her words and you will never understand those words. A call that does not concern you, avoid making it a case. Love and trust is the best protective measure than being a watch dog. Continue Reading..........

VILLAGE MEETING (MEETING ỤMỤNNA) PART FOUR By Tobe Eze

 

YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND ME PLEASE. IT IS NOT MY FAULT

Lekwanu ndị mmadụ ooooo. You want me to be having village meeting when exams were after my life. Exam no be my mate, but na me find trouble, na me accepted to study. Anyways, thank God I have finished and I am back for our meeting to continue. We shall start this meeting with my experience during this exam period. Before I continue, biko, congratulate me for it was not easy for me at all.

This my guy from the same umunna called me two times but I missed the two calls in one day during this exam period. When I came in around 10:56pm, I told myself that it was late to return the call that day that I will call him tomorrow. The tomorrow came and I had two papers, one in the morning and the other in the afternoon. After the two papers which were not all that easy for me, I forgot to return the call and continued preparing for the next paper. After two days, he sent me a message via WhatsApp and told me, “Tobe, what you are doing is not good but no problem. God is watching.” I tried to explain to him but he could not give me the opportunity. I tried all my best but he had already taken a decision. It pained me seriously but I was left with a tiny option. In my mind, I was telling myself that this guy suppose to understand me. Why is he saying all these? Kamu biakwa before I will give conclusion. Continue Reading...........

Justice: an Option for Peace in a Troubled Nigeria. By Tobe Eze

 This article has already been published in Limelight Magazine (Holy Family Fathers and Brothers of the Youth Congregation HFFBY) 2022

Introduction

Most troubles in Nigeria are caused by unhealthy division of public positions, fund and goods and unhealthy judgements. Again, when treatments become sectional or regional, it gives birth to many questions and those questions, if not answered well will cause crises. Those questions only demand, “Justice”. Nigeria from the amalgamation has been suffering from different troubles but the present situation seems to be the worst situation Nigeria has ever seen because of the loud cry of injustice all over the country. Justice has been sacrificed on the altar of ethnicity, tribalism, religiosity, sycophancy, hypocrisy, insincerity and so on. The duty of this article is to what justice is, types and how it can help the present state of the country. Continue Reading..........